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On this page I have recorded what I found significant during the past week as well as my thoughts about those events and other reflections. I started doing this before the practice became popular on the internet This is my diary, written a little each day and published weekly.

At times I may seem to pontificate on a subject that comes to mind during the week. I do not intend it as a demand or even a suggestion that everyone should think or act as I do. It is rather, intended to let you know what goes on in my mind ... how I am motivated to live as I do.

If The World of Grandpa Don appeals to you,
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Grandpa Don Plefka

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June 6, 2008

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Friday afternoon I checked the larder and found no urgent need to replenish. I was in need of a haircut and so went off to visit the barber. There was a time that would have been done on a Thursday after taking Mikey to Touch of Class for his grooming but Bible study has moved to that time disrupting my routine. It is amazing how easy it is to disrupt an old guy's life.

Congratulations to Janelle Woodards. She graduated from High School on Friday. I presume that after a summer hiatus she will be off to higher education.. While we are congratulating,, kudos go to Anthony for the second home run of this season. As a reward, they fixed the air conditioner on the team bus.  

Tom needed to pick Kelly up from her friend's house in Orland Park so he cane here for a visit while he awaited her call. Besides having a nice little visit, I put him to work moving Biscus (say Hi! Biscus) from his winter home in the living room to his summer residence on the patio, When I went out on a glorious Saturday morning, Biscus looked quite content and I am sure was enjoying the fresh air and sun. My reading of C. S. Lewis that morning was brief and to the point. Lewis said that in the end, there will be two kinds of people, Those who have said to Him, "Thy will be done." They will be entering Heaven. And those to whom He will say, "Thy will be done." They had put Heaven aside for the dubious joys of earth. Lewis reminds us that only those who have chosen it will go to Hell.

My mind is going soft. I didn't go shopping Friday and I forgot that I was hosting Dinner & Cards on Sunday. There were no "goodies" in the house for munching during cards. A trip was made to the store and of course I spent well over $100. But now the larder is well stocked. After taking my annual May 31st shower I was off to a surprise 70th birthday party. Susan  Rheinheimer said that her husband Bob would get a very special gift. We all gathered at their home. Susan & Bob had gone to the I-Max Theater at Navy Pier and when they returned home his family and friends were packed into the garage. He was very suppressed when he opened the garage door. (Sue had called on some pretext to warn us of their arrival) After a time Bob was led out of the house with his eyes closed to find their car had been replaced with another festooned with a big red bow ... a 1986 Jaguar ... 12 cylinder ... and beautiful! He had often said his life would be complete if he had a Jaguar and when Sue told the family members she wanted his 70th birthday to be really special, they suggested this gift. Bob's son buys and refurbishes classic cars then resells them. They worked on this one for months. It was a family gift to a most deserving guy. Congratulations Bob!  It was a great party, all sharing in Bob's joy and in the joy of giving experienced by Sue and the rest of the family/ How fortunate can a man be, having Susan and a Jaguar too!
Surprise! Bob's Present Bob & His car Bob & Me Bob, Sue & The Jag
Surprise! More Surprise! Bob & his Jag I was there. Bob, Sue & Jag

I had a great time at the party, having the opportunity to socialize with many friends from church and meeting some of Bob's relatives. Bob and Sue are choir members (that is where they met ... late, but not too late, in life) and they are cantors, both having beautiful voices. I also see Bob every week at Bible Study. I had the opportunity to tell Bob, "Thanks for being you". to which he replied, "I have no choice, that's who I am." But what I meant was that I was happy to know the person he was. He is a person in right relationship with God.

Happiness is often the result of
 being too busy to be miserable.
~ Anonymous

Sunday was a glorious as Saturday had been. The perfect weather was a bonus to everything else. There were two young men who served a cantors at the 10:30 Mass. They both had marvelous voices. I later found that they were college students and would be with us for the entire summer. After exchanging greetings with many friends and having several conversations on my way out of church I made my way back home for a bit of heaven in the gazebo before having a lite lunch. After lunch, I found a surprise amongst  my email.

I had set up the Packard Family Mysteries page in the hope that some Packard Family researcher would find it and have some pieces of the puzzle that may help us to trace the parents and grandparents of our Shepard Packard. In addition Peggy (brother Jim's wife) was interested in getting more information about the "Michigan Packards" thinking there may be some clues there. Well, Jean Dean found the Packard page. Jean lives in Michigan and her mother was a Packard, Her ancestors include an Abiel Packard, born in  Maine in 1826 who resided in Onterio and married there. His Family later moved to AuGres, Michigan. Jean has found the graves of her grandparents there and is going back to do more research in a week or two. The name Abiel Packard keeps popping up in our research and we know that our ancestor Shepard Packard was born in Massachusetts in about 1818. But Maine was part of Massachusetts until 1820 so it is possible that our Shepard, and Jean's Abial may have come from the same family.  I of course sent the information to Peggy who will be greatly interested.

The Halfords arrived about 4:00. Dick was bent over and moving slowly, carrying a cane and a pillow. He had twisted his back and strained a muscle after a shower on Saturday.  I suggested that Jan and I could go to dinner and bring something back for him but he said he was perfectly capable of going to the restaurant with us. And so we went to Hollywood on 159th St, arriving about 4:30 to be seated in the totally empty room. After receiving our before dinner drinks, I ordered the Saganaki and their cheese platter. The Saganaki was served with great flourish and abundant flame. It was as delicious as it was festive. The cheese platter was huge and included samples of about eight different cheeses festooned with slices of a variety of melons, tomato, strawberries as well as sliced hard boiled egg. This was followed by our salads which were made with a variety of greens, not your plain old common lettuce. As usual Dick had a well done filet which he said melted in his mouth. I opted for the small cut of prime rib and Jan had a chicken dish. We all took some of our dinners home and I left with some of the cheese tray. The decor was delightful as was the background music. Our stay was marred only by the presence of a family with a screaming child over which there was no attempt to control. Blessedly their stay was short. While there, only three additional tables were occupied although there were a number of people in the bar aria and on the pattio. I asked our waitress if it was always that empty and when she said yes, I asked if they thought it may be a result of the reputation of the former establishment in the building. She said the the manager thought that could be the case. It was previously the location of Fire & Ice, an establishment which had been shut down after problems with their late hour - and often rowdy bar and which had over served a patron who was responsible for a traffic death. I am sure I will be back there - if they manage to stay open.

Returning home we enjoyed a tour of the garden and several hands of pinochle before selecting a date, a month's hence, when my friends will host "Dinner & Cards". It was a truly delightful weekend. It just doesn't get any better than this!

God is a spring of living water which flows unceasingly into the hearts of those who pray.
~ St. Louis De Montfort

Monday was one of those days when, after breakfast my coffee carafe and cup, stay on the table in the gazebo all day. That leaves my hands free to carry first, C.S. Lewis and my morning prayer book, then my study guide for Bible Study, and then my book, A New Earth. Of course the wireless phone always comes along. On one such trip a young robin stood motionless on the patio, As I passed within 2' of him he didn't make a move. Mikey ignored him as well. I felt like St. Francis. After we settled down in the gazebo he hopped about a bit and then flew off. A pattern develops ... some reading, some reflection on what has been read and/or just absorbing the beauty of the day. Occasionally a noisy lawn mower will disturb the peacefulness of my little bit of heaven and I come in to the computer.

Tuesday started cloudy but pleasant. As I ate breakfast five gold finches stopped at my patio, settling for a few minutes on the trellises. I am accustomed to seeing one or two but not that many in a group. About 9:30 AM Anne Marie called to tell me that Dom's procedure went well and he was having breakfast. A probe was inserted via his mouth and throat to his heart. An electrical shock was applied with no result, then a second zap was applied which stabilized his heart rhythm. He is all charged up and ready to go. (My evaluation)

Wednesday was the occasion of Anthony's third home run of the season. But that wasn't the BIG event of the day. Congratulations go to Ana. (And ... remember ... that is pronounced On-ah) Hundreds of families gathered at the Tinley Park Convention Center to mark the graduation of  Grissom Middle School. Besides Dan and Karen's youngest, my youngest grandchild, I witnessed the graduation of the children of a couple friends from St Julie Church namely, Brennan Gallagher and Anne Pluchar. The ceremony was well organized and short considering that over 240 diplomas were awarded. Ana, along with a number of her fellow students also received the Board of Education award for maintaining a 3.9 or above GPA for the three years of middle School. After the 45 minute ceremony, we retired to the Dan & Karen Plefka home for refreshments and tête-à-tête.
The Middle School Graduation of
Ana Rose Plefka
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Ana The Graduate
Ana Rose Plefka
Ana with
Mom & Dad
Ana with Parents  
Ana with siblings,
Nick & Kelsey
Ana with Nick & Kelsey   The entrance procession The Graduate
    Grandparents & Graduate The graduate with grandparents:
Ted & Marilyn Buchler
Grandpa Don Plefka

.Needless to say, but I will anyway, we are all proud of Ana, as we are of all our offsprings of this and the previous generation. We had a great evening.

Readjusting is a painful process,
 but most of us need it at one time or another.
~ Arthur Christopher Benson

The storms during the night Wednesday and into Thursday were loud, colorful and with copious amounts of rain. Thankfully the damaging winds and twisters missed us. Thursday dawned cloudy and warm and I was off to Bible study. More wisdom from "Wisdom". What choices do we make? How do we live our lives? The session reminded me of the quotes (above) from C.S. Lewis ... Do we live God's way or do we chose to give in to our ego and have it our way?

The afternoon turned sunny and would have been unbearably hot if it weren't for the wind. I did some more reading, this time from Tolle. I am becoming disappointed in him, or at least his conception of his approach to our lives. I feel that he makes it unnecessarily complicated, looking to "awaken" this "inner being" that he equates with our soul. He is on the right track in believing that we are too wrapped up in our "materialness" (my word) and has us searching to uncover our "nothingness" (again, my word). He tries to reinvent Zen. I prefer Lewis, simple ... to the point. Lewis reminds me of the KISS Principle ... Keep It Simple, Stupid! God's way will get us Eternal Life ... the materialistic way will get us Eternal death. And ... either one will reflect back to the present life and make it a precursor of the eventuality of the eternal condition. God's way brings us contentment and a feeling of being right with Him and the universe. The materialistic way leaves us unsatisfied, always searching for more and in constant fear of loosing what we have.

Bob Lewis sent a beautiful picture of a child and her grandma. The child is saying, :"Granny, do all fairy tales begin with 'Once upon a time ...'?  "No darling, there is a whole series of fairy tales that begin with 'If elected I promise ...' ", Yes indeed, That subject was broached at bible study when one participant remarked that she could not find a candidate who did not violate what she considered one or more of her religious and moral beliefs. I suggested that she need not worry too much because no matter what each candidate says, he (I don't have to say "he/she" any more) will do, he can't do it alone but must get the support of the majority of his fellow members of the legislature. And in the case of a president, he may favor a particular direction and suggest it to the legislature but the only direct effect he will have is the use of the veto. For my part, I will vote for the candidate who has the best, in my opinion, general qualifications for the job, not because of what he thinks he can do. It has been said that a man thinking that by becoming the president he can run the country is like an ant climbing an elephant's leg with intentions of rape.

That is not to say that as Commander-in-chief of the armed forces, he can't get us into a heap of trouble. but otherwise he has a lot less effect on the laws of the nation and almost no effect on the economy. There are too many other factors that go into it. Captain Edward John Smith did not sink the Titanic. The faulty design of the ship had much to do with it, along with the degree of watchfulness of the lookout, as well as the chance event of an iceberg being in the ship's path. Of course the captain is assigned the blame as sure as he would be lauded for a speedy voyage if that had been the case. Such is it with presidents.

It is much more important that the president is able to represent the country well when dealing with his foreign counterparts and that he has good moral character, and common sense. But in retrospect, we have survived presidents who lacked some or all of these traits as well. We simply must pick the best we can from the selection available, knowing that to want to be president a man probably has an ego as big as the ego of the ant climbing the elephant's leg. 

Because you’re not what I would have you to be,
I blind myself to who, in truth, you are.

~ Madeline L’Engle

It has been a very busy week ... not overwhelming busy, but wonderfully busy. Good things happening to good people. My Friday reading of C.S. Lewis tells us that there are no ordinary people. They are either on their way to being transformed into glorious beings who, if we saw them in that state today, we would be tempted to bow down and adore, they would be so brilliant and beautiful. Or they are on a path that will see them transformed into miserable, hideous creatures to be shunned and avoided. I have seen only the former.

Would it not be a better world if we could all see each other that way.

True happiness … is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.
~ Helen Keller


Be more kind than you need to be 

Grandpa Don Plefka

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