After I managed to stop laughing I began to think about it. The fact is that
if a woman locked her husband and her dog in the trunk of her car the
results would be the same. The dog is concerned with only the present and is
happy to be free and united with its master, not at all concerned with who
got him locked in the trunk in the first place. The big difference is seen
five years later. In the case of the woman doing the trunk locking if she
says. to her husband, "Do you remember the time I locked you in the trunk of
the car?" He is likely to answer, "Oh yes, I do vaguely remember. Afterward
we had a good laugh about it." On the other hand, if the husband did
the locking, without being asked, the wife will suddenly say, "You hate me
... You locked me in the trunk of your car five years ago and in 1978 you
forgot our anniversary.
One could conclude that men are more like dogs or that women tend to hold a
grudge but the truth of the matter is that both men and women need to base
their lives on what is happening now having learned the lessons of the past.
Besides, I don't think either a man nor a woman would get into the trunk of
a car just because they were asked to do so.
Saturday the "official" Chicago St. Patrick's Day parade was held including
the dying of the Chicago River green. The Marist Band performed, featuring
Caitlin Plefka in the flute section but TV coverage snubbed them. Nick
was finishing his spring break at home and I joined the family for my second
Irish dinner of corn beef and cabbage. Both my daughter and my daughter-in-law
prepared the corn beef in the oven rather than the traditional method of simmering it
in water. Delicious! Again I came home with a "care package". It was great
to invest time with Dan's family. Ted and Marilyn joined us for desert and it
was good to be with them also.
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May you live all the days of your life.
Jonathan Swift
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I had some more fun with the "Electronic Spotlight.." (above) I didn't
like the way I had it expand at the end of the "show" so I modified it.
If you would like to see the new "show" go back up and see it. It takes
a little while to do its thing so be patient. I think its cute. That
isn't done with Expression Web but is a "Flash Movie" created with a
product called SwishMax and is added to the page. I also changed my
provider for searching this web site, going to the premier search
people, Google. I find Google to be very fast and accurate, not
requiring the indexing needed by my old provider. In addition it
integrates with the Google Analytics I use to track activity on the
site. I hope you find it satisfactory for your needs. While picking up
the new search engine I found many other features offered by Google and
so this page now features "Reminders From God" which changes each day. I
know that I like to be reminded often by God. It is just too easy to
forget what He wants us to do.
An email came from my cousin Gay Wands with a link to
Randy Pausch reprising his Last Lecture . If you haven't seen it
invest ten minutes in this remarkable man's message. It speaks of his
impending death but is more about life. My reply to Gay's email was, in
part:
Anne and I were made aware to the subject of death
in a special way with the movie "Shadow Land". It also introduced me to C.
S. Lewis because it was based on his life and how he and his wife viewed
her pending death. We talked about it and the fact that our marriage
would end with the death of one of us. It is a matter of recognizing
that the event of death is an integral part of life and it is to be
expected. When Anne's death occurred, I was as prepared as anyone could
be.
Randy Pausch's lecture takes it a step farther in
that he talks about living your life. I agree with him 100% You could say
that my web site is my on-going "final lecture". That is a
primary reason
for it.
Our parish usually has the young people enact the Passion and Death
Gospel on Palm Sunday and this year I thought the presentation was very
effective. The words as spoken are true to the Gospel as written. But in
this case, the actions of the presenters delivered a wordless homily. After the death of Christ, the bystanders slowly melted away.
A cello and two violins provide doleful music. One young girl
with a light blue veil remained seated on the floor and two young men
carried "Christ" from the cross, laying Him in her lap where she stroked
his head and face for several meaningful moments. He was then carried
off and she was assisted up and left. The purpose of the enactment of
the Gospel is to make it real to us. It did that for me.
Later in the afternoon I was the host for Dinner & Cards and I told the
Halford's that I would take them to a fine Irish restaurant. It was Lang
Lee's but there was no corn beef and cabbage on the menu. Dick and
Jan enjoy eating there. The restaurant had been originally near them as
a carry-out place and the owner lived across the street from the
Halford's and was a friend. His children now run the business and
it is, I think, the best Chinese restaurant in the area. We returned to
my house for pinochle and conversation. It was a delightful evening.
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To live only for some future goal is
shallow. It’s the sides of the mountain that sustain life, not
the top.~ St. John of the Cross
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My discourse last week on the economy turned out to be timely
considering the recent developments in the banking industry. The old
joke was that you couldn't get a loan from a bank unless you could prove
you didn't need one. Banks were "conservative" in that they made sure
that they conserved their assets. The stock market "crash" of the 1930's
occurred because speculators in the stock market were allowed to buy
stock on margin, in effect borrowing by paying a small percentage
of the cost of the stock. The trick was to sell when the price of the
stock went up making money while never being required to actually pay
for the stock. That was fine until a recession caused a drop in
stock prices leaving the speculators owning stock that was worth far
less than what they paid for it and having their margin (loans) called
in for payment. When the speculators drew all their cash out of the
banks they, in turn, failed because there was not enough money available
for them to conduct their business since their assets were invested in
what people owed them and could not pay. The Buying and selling of
stocks are now better regulated so as to avoid the problem, at least to
the degree that it could be catastrophic. (Hopefully)
A number of years ago it was the Junk Bond failures that caused the
problem. People didn't pay attention to the intrinsic value, or lack
thereof, of companies borrowing through the selling of bonds. A
company with little net worth or high debt is forced to offer high
interest rates to attract investors in their paper. When the companies
failed to meet their obligations the bonds became worthless and the
investor not only gets no interest but looses his investment principal
as well.
Now it is the mortgage industry that is in trouble. Greedy brokers have
stretched the estimated value of real-estate to its limits and beyond in
order to convince lenders that there is high value in the property while
they have at the same time done their best to convince buyers that they
can afford to pay for it using low introductory "flexible " rates or
other deceptive practices. Buyers, in the mean time are eager to believe
they can have the American dream of home ownership and buy well beyond
their actual means. It is an entire community built like a house of
cards and when they start to fall, all goes with them including the
banks and other lending institutions. The loans are sometimes sold to
other lenders and eventually interest rates go up. The borrower can not
pay the higher rate and to make matters worse the over valuated property
can not be sold in the market or must be sold for less than the amount
of the loan.
The basic problem, I think, is that we live in a false economy, built on
borrowing. We have, as a society, come to believe that we are somehow
entitled to the best of everything and the "good life". So, we borrow
to, and beyond, what we anticipate we can eventually pay. We use credit
cards and build up high balances, paying interest rates that are out of
control. Some blame "Big Business and their "Profit" culture. In my
opinion honest profit is the only sound way to run an economy. We had
better resurrect the terms "usury", "greed" and "deception" on the
one hand, and "thrift", "honesty", "patience", and "moderation" on the
other.
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When you pray
rather let your heart be without words
than your words without heart.
~ John Bunyan
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My Father Wrote ...
The first of my father's writings of which I was aware was a poem that
my sister Marilyn shared with me after I discovered my Copeland family.
I thought
The Return was his only poem and it told me
something of my father, something about his feelings when he left the
military. But of course I now know know there was much more.
An Ex-Buck's Dream of Heaven
would at first seem to carry the opposite feelings about the military.
Change the ranks and it could also be the dream of an ex-sailor. It
speaks of the just deserts of those who once held the power over the
soldier's military life and his ultimate reward. But the last line
reveals the need to belong to the unit, a habit difficult to break. The
third selection for this week is
Soldier's Prayer.
Ah ... for the comforts of home and protection from the
discomforts of military life. It is in stark contrast to The Return.
Makes one think ... the grass is always greener ... !
In reviewing the book of my father's writings I discovered an error in
my "Copeland Family" page. I had recorded his honorable discharge as
April of 1923 but it was actually in 1922. This places his marriage to
Edith Eloholz. more logically, 8 months after his return to the Cleveland
area. I am gradually getting things sorted out. .
I thought I set the alarm but in retrospect I must have just checked the
radio to be sure it hadn't drifted off the station as it is apt to do.
In any case, my internal alarm cane to the rescue and I awakened with a
start just five minutes after the alarm should have sounded. I was
quickly dressed and down stairs and after Mikey did his morning duty,
the garbage and recycle bins were delivered to the curb in the light
cold rain. I knew Barbara would be late because the slightest dampness
of the pavement causes wheels to turn more slowly ... as it should. I
had plenty of time to put things away so she could clean unencumbered by
a lot of "stuff". It is my pre-cleaning cleaning.
After supper I sat down with my coffee to watch the news. A nap took me
and I was awakened by the phone. Tom often calls on his way home from
work. As he was catching me up on the events of his part of the family I
could hear a persistent beeping coming from someplace in the house. I
investigated after we finished our conversation and found it to be my
alarm clock. I had indeed turned it on but apparently when the change to
Daylight Savings occurred, I had reset the alarm to PM instead of AM.
Another one of life's mysteries solved!
Do you have HBO on your cable service? They are featuring a mini-series
on the life of John Adams. On my father's side, John Adams was my 2nd
cousin, six times removed. That means he was 2 people away from our
nearest common ancestor and we are 6 generations apart. I knew little
about the man but the first episode of the series revealed him to be the
kind of person I like very much, a man of principals, dedicated to the
rule of law. He was also adept at using words, an ability much to be
admired. To know that we derive from the same ancestors is a bonus. The
series is also a source of knowledge of the history of this nation and I
love historical entertainment. This series is one that I have set up on
my DVR to record both repeat and new episodes so I can watch at my
convenience.
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To conquer fear is the beginning
of wisdom.
~ Bertrand Russell
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Wednesday's mail included the annual
rebate of the village portion of 2007 property tax, a gift amounting to
$287.42. The rebate goes to home owners and is a nice little bonus. In
the mean time village services continue to be top notch funded by the
many businesses and the taxes they pay as well as the villages portion
of the sales tax.
Thursday morning, after sleeping until 8 AM and a
leisurely breakfast I had my second cup of coffee in the living room
with God and Anne ... or rather tried to. Naps kept grabbing me and I
finally gave in. It was bright and sunny and Biscus (say Hi Biscus) sported a big flower
to make it even more tropical looking in the room. But it was cold
outside with temperatures in the mid to upper 30's. I finally just gave
in and let the nap take me away.
Before I awoke, I dreamt that I was
having trouble walking. Me feet simply would not cooperate, constantly
trying to cross in front of me and refusing to go straight. It was
frustrating to say the least. When I finally awakened ... reluctantly
... the problem with my feet was obvious. I was sitting with my legs
stretched out and my ankles crossed as if tied in position. I had a
difficult time getting my legs in motion. It was 11:25.and I had slept
the morning away. No big deal ... I had not missed any big appointments,
or little ones for that matter. No earthshaking tasks were left undone.
It is called "retirement" ... in spades!
One of my friends, Alex Kapocious, sent an bunch
of stories ... things children said or did. This one was great:
Jamie was
trying out for a part in the school play. His mother told me that he'd
set his heart on being in it, though she feared he would not be chosen.
On the day the parts were awarded, I went with her to collect him after
school. Jamie rushed up to her, eyes shining with pride and excitement.
"Guess what, Mom," he shouted, and then said those words that will
remain a lesson to me....."I've been chosen to clap and cheer."
That is a great attitude, one we all need to have
at various points in our lives, I do a lot of that now.
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To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable, because God has
forgiven the inexcusable in you.
-- C.S. Lewis |
On Thursday I found a big surprise in the mail. There was a long letter
and some photos from My cousin Diane Simousek Lambert. It had been in
the 1940's that I had last seen Diane, her brother John, my uncle John
and aunt Antoinette (Tony) on visits to the farm in Indiana. I had
tried to contact my Indiana cousins by mail last year but had no results
but of course I didn't know that Diane is now a Lambert. I also had
mis-remembered her name thinking it was Marie. Shame on me. The photos
Diane sent are below. Click on them for a larger view.
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Blanche Jeckmen, Catherin
Snyder, Sylvia Plefka,
Antonette Simousek |
Ed & Diane
Lambert
at Epcot Center, FL |
Lambert (Simoisek) Home
- Summer 2007 |
Diane told me about her children and
grandchildren as well as her brother John, touching on many other family
things. I can now fill in more of my genealogy chart. These are my
cousins ... maybe not in blood but certainly in spirit. They were the
family I knew and lost. Her letter awakened memories of my young years.
As soon as I saw her name "Diane" my mental block was removed and I
heard her name spoken by my parents, other cousins, her parents and
myself. She also said she has an interest in genealogy and so I will
have to see what she can tell me of the Simousek and Jecmen ancestry as
well as that of her mother's parents. I know I will now be able to
add to my life story.
It was an internet search for "Joseph Plefka" that
brought he to the Plefka Family page. She had never seen photos of her
grandparents so the sharing is a two way street. There is much more. I
have only read the letter twice and am sure there is much more to be
gleaned from it. Now that the window of communication is open there is
much more to bee seen and learned.
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Do not abandon yourselves to despair.
We are the Easter people and hallelujah is our song.
~ Pope John Paul II
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I realized why I was to sleep most of the morning away. As has been my
custom I went to the Holy Thursday Mass, came home for a while and went
back to the chapel for Night Prayer at 11:30. To me this half hour of
sung prayer is deeply meaningful. "Come with Me ... Wait with Me".
A Blessed Easter to you all.