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On this page I have recorded what I found significant during the past week as well as my thoughts about those events and other reflections. I started doing this before the practice became popular on the internet This is my diary, written a little each day and published weekly.

At times I may seem to pontificate on a subject that comes to mind during the week. I do not intend it as a demand or even a suggestion that everyone should think or act as I do. It is rather, intended to let you know what goes on in my mind ... how I am motivated to live as I do.

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The happenings and thought of last week 
Mary Moskal sent a simple test to see who is your best friend, You lock your wife and your dog in the trunk of your car for an hour. When you open it, which one is happy to see you?

After I managed to stop laughing I began to think about it. The fact is that if a woman locked her husband and her dog in the trunk of her car the results would be the same. The dog is concerned with only the present and is happy to be free and united with its master, not at all concerned with who got him locked in the trunk in the first place. The big difference is seen five years later. In the case of the woman doing the trunk locking if she says. to her husband, "Do you remember the time I locked you in the trunk of the car?" He is likely to answer, "Oh yes, I do vaguely remember. Afterward we had a good laugh about it."  On the other hand, if the husband did the locking, without being asked, the wife will suddenly say, "You hate me ... You locked me in the trunk of your car five years ago and in 1978 you forgot our anniversary. 

One could conclude that men are more like dogs or that women tend to hold a grudge but the truth of the matter is that both men and women need to base their lives on what is happening now having learned the lessons of the past.  Besides, I don't think either a man nor a woman would get into the trunk of a car just because they were asked to do so.

Saturday the "official" Chicago St. Patrick's Day parade was held including the dying of the Chicago River green. The Marist Band performed, featuring Caitlin Plefka in the flute section but TV coverage snubbed them.  Nick was finishing his spring break at home and I joined the family for my second Irish dinner of corn beef and cabbage. Both my daughter and my daughter-in-law prepared the corn beef in the oven rather than the traditional method of simmering it in water. Delicious! Again I came home with a "care package". It was great to invest time with Dan's family. Ted and Marilyn joined us for desert and it was good to be with them also.

May you live all the days of your life.
 Jonathan Swift
 

I had some more fun with the "Electronic Spotlight.." (above) I didn't like the way I had it expand at the end of the "show" so I modified it. If you would like to see the new "show" go back up and see it. It takes a little while to do its thing so be patient. I think its cute. That isn't done with Expression Web but is a "Flash Movie" created with a product called SwishMax and is added to the page. I also changed my provider for searching this web site, going to the premier search people, Google. I find Google to be very fast and accurate, not requiring the indexing needed by my old provider. In addition it integrates with the Google Analytics I use to track activity on the site. I hope you find it satisfactory for your needs. While picking up the new search engine I found many other features offered by Google and so this page now features "Reminders From God" which changes each day. I know that I like to be reminded often by God. It is just too easy to forget what He wants us to do.

An email came from my cousin Gay Wands with a link to Randy Pausch reprising his Last Lecture . If you haven't seen it invest ten minutes in this remarkable man's message. It speaks of his impending death but is more about life. My reply to Gay's email was, in part:

Anne and I were made aware to the subject of death in a special way with the movie "Shadow Land". It also introduced me to C. S. Lewis because it was based on his life and how he and his wife viewed her pending death. We talked about it and the fact that our marriage would end with the death of one of us. It is a matter of recognizing that the event of death is an integral part of life and it is to be expected. When Anne's death occurred, I was as prepared as anyone could be.

Randy Pausch's lecture takes it a step farther in that he talks about living your life. I agree with him 100% You could say that my web site is my on-going "final lecture". That is a primary reason for it.

Our parish usually has the young people enact the Passion and Death Gospel on Palm Sunday and this year I thought the presentation was very effective. The words as spoken are true to the Gospel as written. But in this case, the actions of the presenters delivered a wordless homily. After the death of Christ, the bystanders slowly melted away. A cello and two violins provide doleful music. One young girl with a light blue veil remained seated on the floor and two young men carried "Christ" from the cross, laying Him in her lap where she stroked his head and face for several meaningful moments. He was then carried off and she was assisted up and left. The purpose of the enactment of the Gospel is to make it real to us. It did that for me.

Later in the afternoon I was the host for Dinner & Cards and I told the Halford's that I would take them to a fine Irish restaurant. It was Lang Lee's but there was no corn beef and cabbage on the menu.  Dick and Jan enjoy eating there. The restaurant had been originally near them as a carry-out place and the owner lived across the street from the Halford's and was a friend.  His children now run the business and it is, I think, the best Chinese restaurant in the area. We returned to my house for pinochle and conversation. It was a delightful evening.

To live only for some future goal is shallow. It’s the sides of the mountain that sustain life, not the top.~ St. John of the Cross

My discourse last week on the economy turned out to be timely considering the recent developments in the banking industry. The old joke was that you couldn't get a loan from a bank unless you could prove you didn't need one. Banks were "conservative" in that they made sure that they conserved their assets. The stock market "crash" of the 1930's occurred because speculators in the stock market were allowed to buy stock on margin, in  effect borrowing by paying a small percentage of the cost of the stock. The trick was to sell when the price of the stock went up making money while never being required to actually pay for the stock.  That was fine until a recession caused a drop in stock prices leaving the speculators owning stock that was worth far less than what they paid for it and having their margin (loans) called in for payment. When the speculators drew all their cash out of the banks they, in turn, failed because there was not enough money available for them to conduct their business since their assets were invested in what people owed them and could not pay. The Buying and selling of stocks are now better regulated so as to avoid the problem, at least to the degree that it could be catastrophic. (Hopefully)

A number of years ago it was the Junk Bond failures that caused the problem. People didn't pay attention to the intrinsic value, or lack thereof, of companies borrowing through the selling of bonds.  A company with little net worth or high debt is forced to offer high interest rates to attract investors in their paper. When the companies failed to meet their obligations the bonds became worthless and the investor not only gets no interest but looses his investment principal as well.

Now it is the mortgage industry that is in trouble. Greedy brokers have stretched the estimated value of real-estate to its limits and beyond in order to convince lenders that there is high value in the property while they have at the same time done their best to convince buyers that they can afford to pay for it using low introductory "flexible " rates or other deceptive practices. Buyers, in the mean time are eager to believe they can have the American dream of home ownership and buy well beyond their actual means. It is an entire community built like a house of cards and when they start to fall, all goes with them including the banks and other lending institutions. The loans are sometimes sold to other lenders and eventually interest rates go up. The borrower can not pay the higher rate and to make matters worse the over valuated property can not be sold in the market or must be sold for less than the amount of the loan.

The basic problem, I think, is that we live in a false economy, built on borrowing. We have, as a society, come to believe that we are somehow entitled to the best of everything and the "good life". So, we borrow to, and beyond, what we anticipate we can eventually pay. We use credit cards and build up high balances, paying interest rates that are out of control. Some blame "Big Business and their "Profit" culture. In my opinion honest profit is the only sound way to run an economy. We had better resurrect the terms "usury", "greed"  and "deception" on the one hand, and "thrift", "honesty", "patience", and "moderation" on the other.

When you pray
rather let your heart be without words
than your words without heart.
~ John Bunyan
 

My Father Wrote ...
The first of my father's writings of which I was aware was a poem that my sister Marilyn shared with me after I discovered my Copeland family. I thought The Return  was his only poem and it told me something of my father, something about his feelings when he left the military. But of course I now know know there was much more.  An Ex-Buck's Dream of Heaven  would at first seem to carry the opposite feelings about the military. Change the ranks and it could also be the dream of an ex-sailor. It speaks of the just deserts of those who once held the power over the soldier's military life and his ultimate reward. But the last line reveals the need to belong to the unit, a habit difficult to break. The third selection for this week is Soldier's Prayer. Ah ... for the comforts of home and protection from the discomforts of military life. It is in stark contrast to The Return. Makes one think ... the grass is always greener ... !

In reviewing the book of my father's writings I discovered an error in my "Copeland Family" page. I had recorded his honorable discharge as April of 1923 but it was actually in 1922. This places his marriage to Edith Eloholz. more logically, 8 months after his return to the Cleveland area. I am gradually getting things sorted out. .

I thought I set the alarm but in retrospect I must have just checked the radio to be sure it hadn't drifted off the station as it is apt to do. In any case, my internal alarm cane to the rescue and I awakened with a start just five minutes after the alarm should have sounded. I was quickly dressed and down stairs and after Mikey did his morning duty, the garbage and recycle bins were delivered to the curb in the light cold rain. I knew Barbara would be late because the slightest dampness of the pavement causes wheels to turn more slowly ... as it should. I had plenty of time to put things away so she could clean unencumbered by a lot of "stuff". It is my pre-cleaning cleaning.

After supper I sat down with my coffee to watch the news. A nap took me and I was awakened by the phone. Tom often calls on his way home from work. As he was catching me up on the events of his part of the family I could hear a persistent beeping coming from someplace in the house. I investigated after we finished our conversation and found it to be my alarm clock. I had indeed turned it on but apparently when the change to Daylight Savings occurred, I had reset the alarm to PM instead of AM. Another one of life's mysteries solved! 

Do you have HBO on your cable service? They are featuring a mini-series on the life of John Adams. On my father's side, John Adams was my 2nd cousin, six times removed. That means he was 2 people away from our nearest common ancestor and we are 6 generations apart. I knew little about the man but the first episode of the series revealed him to be the kind of person I like very much, a man of principals, dedicated to the rule of law. He was also adept at using words, an ability much to be admired. To know that we derive from the same ancestors is a bonus. The series is also a source of knowledge of the history of this nation and I love historical entertainment. This series is one that I have set up on my DVR to record both repeat and new episodes so I can watch at my convenience.

To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom.
~ Bertrand Russell

Wednesday's mail included the annual rebate of the village portion of 2007 property tax, a gift amounting to $287.42. The rebate goes to home owners and is a nice little bonus. In the mean time village services continue to be top notch funded by the many businesses and the taxes they pay as well as the villages portion of the sales tax.

Thursday morning, after sleeping until 8 AM and a leisurely breakfast I had my second cup of coffee in the living room with God and Anne ... or rather tried to. Naps kept grabbing me and I finally gave in. It was bright and sunny and Biscus (say Hi Biscus) sported a big flower to make it even more tropical looking in the room. But it was cold outside with temperatures in the mid to upper 30's. I finally just gave in and let the nap take me away. Before I awoke, I dreamt that I was having trouble walking. Me feet simply would not cooperate, constantly trying to cross in front of me and refusing to go straight. It was frustrating to say the least. When I finally awakened ... reluctantly ... the problem with my feet was obvious. I was sitting with my legs stretched out and my ankles crossed as if tied in position. I had a difficult time getting my legs in motion. It was 11:25.and I had slept the morning away. No big deal ... I had not missed any big appointments, or little ones for that matter. No earthshaking tasks were left undone. It is called "retirement" ...  in spades!

One of my friends, Alex Kapocious, sent an bunch of stories ... things children said or did. This one was great:

Jamie was trying out for a part in the school play. His mother told  me that he'd set his heart on being in it, though she feared he would not be chosen. On the day the parts were awarded, I went with her to collect him after school. Jamie rushed up to her, eyes shining with pride and excitement.  "Guess what, Mom," he shouted, and then said those words that will remain a lesson to me....."I've been chosen to clap and cheer."

That is a great attitude, one we all need to have at various points in our lives, I do a lot of that now.

To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable, because God has
forgiven the inexcusable in you.
-- C.S. Lewis

On Thursday I found a big surprise in the mail. There was a long letter and some photos from My cousin Diane Simousek Lambert. It had been in the 1940's that I had last seen Diane, her brother John, my uncle John and aunt Antoinette (Tony) on visits to the farm in Indiana.  I had tried to contact my Indiana cousins by mail last year but had no results but of course I didn't know that Diane is now a Lambert. I also had mis-remembered her name thinking it was Marie. Shame on me. The photos Diane sent are below. Click on them for a larger view.

Blanche Jeckmen, Catherin Snyder, Sylvia Plefka, Antonette Simousek Ed & Diane Lambert at Epcot Center, FL  Lambert (Simoisek) Home - Summer 2007
Blanche Jeckmen, Catherin Snyder, Sylvia Plefka,
Antonette Simousek 
Ed & Diane Lambert
at Epcot Center, FL 
 
Lambert (Simoisek) Home
- Summer 2007 

Diane told me about her children and grandchildren as well as her brother John, touching on many other family things. I can now fill in more of my genealogy chart. These are my cousins ... maybe not in blood but certainly in spirit. They were the family I knew and lost. Her letter awakened memories of my young years. As soon as I saw her name "Diane" my mental block was removed and I heard her name spoken by my parents, other cousins, her parents and myself. She also said she has an interest in genealogy and so I will have to see what she can tell me of the Simousek and Jecmen ancestry as well as that of her mother's parents.  I know I will now be able to add to my life story.

It was an internet search for "Joseph Plefka" that brought he to the Plefka Family page. She had never seen photos of her grandparents so the sharing is a two way street. There is much more. I have only read the letter twice and am sure there is much more to be gleaned from it. Now that the window of communication is open there is much more to bee seen and learned.

Do not abandon yourselves to despair. We are the Easter people and hallelujah is our song.
~ Pope John Paul II
 

I realized why I was to sleep most of the morning away. As has been my custom I went to the Holy Thursday Mass, came home for a while and went back to the chapel for Night Prayer at 11:30. To me this half hour of sung prayer is deeply meaningful. "Come with Me ... Wait with Me".

A Blessed Easter to you all.

More next week ... and 'till then, ... Let's be more kind than we need to be.

Grandpa Don Plefka

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the name of the person who led me to it.

 
Randy Pausch reprising his Last Lecture ... Gay Wands
 
 
 
Understanding Islam and Muslims

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Anne wanted everyone to be 'Nice'.
This button was in one of her dresser 
drawers I cleaned out in August of 2004

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